Is it rude to invite family/friends to a destination wedding when I know they will not be able to attend?
We are considering a destination wedding and I realize that our attending guests will be few- maybe 30 max.
The problem is that I have only a handful of family who could realistically come. Do I mail the invites out to the whole bunch, or would it be somewhat rude to send them invites when they know that I kow that they cannot come?
I will be doing some kind of reception once home for all of my loved ones.
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Just invite them to the reception later.
My brother had a destination wedding and they mailed them to everyone. They were afraid that people would be hurt if they didn’t get an invite.
In some of them (the people they knew couldn’t come and some they weren’t sure) they sent a nice note that said “We understand that you may not be able to make it, but we’d like you to think of us on this day.”
It was simple and people didn’t feel so forced to try to make it.
You should mail the invites to anyone that you would wish to come, just as you would at home. Let them decide. No one knows for sure if certain people will or will not go … I’ve actually had friends who expected a handful of people, only to be surprised by the number that showed up (one wedding in Mexico, the other in Jamaica). People just decided to go ahead and go, so there may or may not be more than you expect. Bottom line: invite them and allow them to decide if they want to pay to attend.
No I think it’s rude to assume they will not be able to come and not invite them. I’d say to send an invitation, and on the invitation write “Local Reception to Follow at a Later Date” (unless you actually know the date) so that the ones that cannot make it don’t feel bad for missing it.
invite anyways
my cousin had one nd mailed invites to everyone and i thought it was nice we wish we could of went but it just wasn’t going to be possible!! ALso another nice thing is where they got married had live broadcasting online so we could watch and share the moment from our house and they enclosed that info in the invite which was nice!
You’ll be surprised you will go. I had a destination wedding and thought only 9 would go, but the actual number ended up being 31.
I think it would be more rude to assume they can not go and not send the invites.. Then to send them and they have to decline.
I would mail it to everyone that I would want to attend. It is their decision if they are going to be able to make it or not. I would not want anyone assuming for me.
Nothing wrong with letting people that if they choose to come, you’ll be happy to provide a nice time for them. Nothing wrong with those same people letting you know that they regret they will be unable to attend. Just remember that it’s usually the very people whom you are hoping would never attend who will surprise you and accept.
It is polite to send the invitations even if they won’t be able to attend. They will appreciate your consideration of making an effort rather than not inviting them at all.
it would be more rude to NOT send an invitation b/c you know they wont be able to attend. It would be like you didnt even think of them or inviting them. You should send them out anyways.
I would finalize the date of the home Reception then include details of both on the invitation sent out, leaving the choice to recipient which one to RSVP to. This will also give you the exact number of people who will be coming to the home reception for budgeting/location purposes, even if you indicate ‘location details to follow”.
No it is not rude, because if you did not invite them….that would have hurt and upset them.